EMDR in relationships

In this solo episode, Dr. Caroline Lloyd reflects on how EMDR therapy can subtly (and sometimes dramatically) shift our relationships — even when we're not directly working on them. From calming parent-child dynamics to challenging long-standing patterns like people-pleasing, Caroline explores the ripple effects of healing, and why sometimes things might get messy before they get better. Plus, she teases a fascinating approach to EMDR with couples that might be coming to the podcast soon!

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• Why every EMDR experience is unique — no one-size-fits-all healing
• How working on your own trauma can lead to more peaceful and connected relationships
• What a “virtuous cycle” looks like in real life — and how healing yourself can help calm others around you
• Why suppressed resentment in relationships (like with a parent) matters, even if no one talks about it
• How EMDR can reveal the ways we overcompensate to maintain peace
• Why EMDR can sometimes cause friction in relationships — and how that’s actually part of the growth
• A relatable example of how trauma healing can shake up an unequal relationship dynamic
• A fascinating peek into EMDR being used with couples, even if it’s not traditional couples therapy

Key Highlights:

• Dr. Caroline reflects on listener feedback and the individuality of the EMDR journey
• A beautiful client story showing how EMDR shifted a parent-child dynamic toward more calm and connection
• Insight into hidden resentment and overcompensation in relationships — and how healing can bring authenticity
• Introduction of the idea that healing might require renegotiating the relationship or even bringing in couples therapy
• Mention of a unique approach where EMDR is done with both partners present — powerful, intimate, and eye-opening
• Hint at a future podcast episode with a couples therapist to dig deeper into that model

Resources Mentioned:

• Dr. Lloyd’s Heal Your Past online EMDR program – Register at emdrdoctor.com.au/heal
• Research on PTSD treatments and why EMDR is faster and more effective than traditional talk therapy for trauma

Contact and Feedback:

• Thinking about trying EMDR for PTSD? Reach out to Dr. Lloyd at emdrdoctor.com.au.
• Note: This podcast provides general information and is not a substitute for individual medical advice. Always consult your healthcare provider for personalised recommendations.

Subscribe & Stay Connected:

• Don’t miss next week’s episode — we’ll be exploring even more about how EMDR can shape our lives and relationships. You won’t want to miss the insights (and maybe a special guest).
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Join Dr. Caroline Lloyd as she demystifies PTSD and provides hope for recovery, showing that healing is possible with the right tools and support. Thanks for listening!